Monday, March 4, 2013
Dating for 4?
Ok so the funk of February is GONE! In its place is a manic like euphoria. Maybe I’m just undiagnosed bipolar. Regardless I’m happy to be on this side of the mood swing. I’d have to say I can credit it a lot to a new friendship I feel developing. I think I was a little lonlier than I was letting myself believe.
I had just met a woman that I swear I’m so excited about that it feels like I’m dating for the first time in years. I hope if she reads this then she doesn’t think I’m hitting on her or a massive weirdo. I have been out of the dating scene for over 10 years now so I’m not exactly sure but if I remember correctly I’m displaying all the signs. Smiling more often, can’t stop talking about her to my parents, super excited to get together for visits and hope when my phone makes the sound indicating I have a text that it’s her. Oh god I totally sound creepy desperate, I’m even writing about her in my blog. Well hopefully she would take this as a compliment instead of heading to the cop shop to take out a restraining order on me.
It’s way more difficult to make friends as an adult, especially when you have two small kids and no employment. Kids, especially the really small ones, are not exactly everyone’s cup of tea. They are loud, messy and destructive. You not only have to prove yourself a decent human being to potential new friends but try to ensure your kids don’t send them bolting for the hills before you get a chance to get to know each other. It’s usually ideal if you find people that have some similar commonalities such as their own children and maybe even a cool husband that your own husband can be introduced to. It’s almost like dating for your family, which maybe makes it much more complicated but if it works out can have some seriously amazing results.
Regardless, so far this new person in my life almost seems too good to be true. We have a lot of similarities right down to what we drink, movies we like to watch, small people in our lives and general matching moral viewpoints. I think what’s the best part of it all is that she seems as interested at making new friends as I am. I know that I tend to come across too enthusiastic a lot of the time and can scare people off. In this way it’s a lot like dating I guess. When two people meet each other and have a desire to make a relationship work then it will. We don’t have to be exactly alike but compatibility and chemistry play a big role.
Spring is around the corner and it always feels like a fresh start. I’m glad to see February behind me and look forward to what a new season will bring.